Let’s talk about reincarnation, the transmigration of the soul, the wheel of samsara, and how one fulfills or escapes their cycles of rebirth. I hesitate to talk about karma as it is not a part of my tradition and both karma and our modern, post-New Age ideas of reincarnation steal *heavily* from Hinduism.
But let’s talk about a second about karma as I understand it. It seems to me to be very similar to the Nordic idea of orlog. Orlog is both your fate as well as the debt owed to you by your ancestors and the debt that you owe the world. Similarly karma is a debt that you are currently paying and accumulating. There is no “good karma” or “bad karma,” there is only karma. This is similar to the idea of soul contracts.
Some Hindus say that the root of all karma, the original karma that causes your soul to incarnate the first time, is desire. This is an important point as we go forward.
Most people that you talk to about the cycles of death and rebirth want to talk about the things you have to do, complete, learn, or believe correctly in order to finish your “term” here in embodied life. I think they’re wrong.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve often been plagued by the idea that I have tasks and lessons to complete here on earth before I can be released from my debts and contracts in order to not come back. Fortunately I’ve remembered that this is absolutely incorrect.
This idea that a desire is what started our journey here is a much more correct understanding from what I remember.
First is the desire for your soul to individuate from the All-That-Is, the Great Mother.
Second is your desire for an embodied life with all the sensory/sensual experiences, pleasurable and not, that come with it.
Third, for some of us, is a feeling that we must keep coming back for one reason or another.
Lately I’ve been observing that some souls, particularly those in human form, seem addicted to coming back when maybe they should rest with the Cosmic Mother for a bit instead. Our broken masculine paradigm insists that we cannot rest until we complete our work, then makes everything work.
What if I told you that the only thing you need to do in order to not incarnate again is to simply not want to? What if I told you that you can be released from soul contracts now?
Another important idea here is the idea of consent. True, continuous consent. This is another thing that the broken masculine paradigm has a problem with. In this system we learn that consent is given once, and once given cannot be retracted.
What a load of shit!! Even in our very broken system, almost any contract can be canceled. There is an out. Minds can be changed.
Similar to our re-evolving idea of sexual consent – that consent should be exuberant, ongoing throughout the encounter, may be withdrawn at any point, and is something that all partners are seeking and monitoring throughout – is the idea that our souls, all of them, are consenting to be here and to be in the situations they’re currently in.
We planned this before we got here. We had certain experiences we wanted to have. Not necessarily to learn, nor to even “finish” the experience. If, like me, your soul wanted to experience an abusive marriage, then perhaps what it really wanted was to experience you saying “no” to a situation that was not serving you! I know that was true for me, and I stayed a lot longer than I needed because I thought I was supposed to fulfill my vows, not break them.
Part of why I have remembered any of this is that a large portion of my life experience is about being in something that seems compulsory and then opting out. Things are always, always better after opting out in line with my soul desires.
If your soul is no longer consenting to incarnate, no amount of debt or contract can pull you back in!
Interestingly, I had a plan to write this post today and last night I had a very relevant dream.
I had given a man free advice on my strategy for finding soulmates or your twin flame using dating apps. I told him the whole thing, for free just because I wanted to, because I was so moved by his distress over yet another bad date with a person who was not a good fit for what he was looking for. Later in the dream when that advice hadn’t worked, he attempted to get more from me in the dream metaphor form of stalking me and attempting to assault me.
After having crossed my own boundaries voluntarily for him before (giving free, unasked for advice), he now felt he had a right to cross my boundaries in whatever way he liked. In the dream I chose to enforce my boundaries by defending myself with violence and with the claiming and speaking of one of my true names, a reflection of my nature.
Nature tells us the same story. Even a very peaceful, lazy animal like the black bear will become a violent force to be reckoned with if you cross her boundaries and harass her cubs.
If your soul does not consent to incarnate, or if you want to end a soul contract you made before you came here, you simply need to withdraw your consent and then enforce that boundary.
It sounds so easy, but trust me when I say that I know it’s simple, but not always easy. Especially for folks like me who were traumatized early on, particularly with abusive power figures including parents. That’s most of us, by the way, as the Christian flavor of our (US) culture visits religious trauma on almost every child. We’ve been conditioned to allow the violation of our boundaries and to think it’s wrong or bad to enforce our boundaries with loud no’s or violence.
Truly I am not a coach for beginners, and I’m a hidden sage, a hermit on the mountaintop. If you’re here reading this, I bet you that you’re not a spiritual beginner, that you’ve begun to walk your path. Moreover, you’ve found me, and they who find the hidden sage are often meant to work with the sage.
If you’re looking for guidance on your spiritual journey, including but certainly not limited to working with enforcing boundaries regarding soul contracts, drop me a line and we can talk about working together.